Marriage Pha!

 Marriage has change because America has change but marriage is still a lifetime commit with another person. Marriage is supposed to be on love and finding your soul mate. Finding someone who gives you butterflies, someone that cares enough for you not to make you cry, someone willing to put up with your flaws, and help you develop into the person you want to be. Today a lot of people take marriage as a joke. Marriage is not thought out it is rushed. People today are getting married just to post pictures on Facebook and Instagram.

                Not all people take marriage as a joke. My best friend is married and loves it. This was not rushed, it was not because they had a child together, and it was not because they lived together. The decision that made them get married was true love. The two have grown and developed together as one over the past couple of years. They now have two kids and are truly happy together. Don’t get me wrong they have their good days and bad days but true love has kept them together. Another friend of mine has gotten married recently, she also choose marriage because of true love.

                I also have a friend who has gotten married just because his ex-girlfriend got married. He did not plan or think the ideal out. He was just thinking about how he could get back at his ex. The sad part is the women he married really loves him. I think marriage has lost a lot of its core values. I always thought it was supposed to be til’ death do us part but that is not the case now of days. Now it should say something like til’ something better comes along, til’ you piss me off, or til’ I can make my own money.  

                Temporary marriage is a big joke to me. If you are not going to be with the person you love for life why even think about marriage? Someone that is going be in your life for a couple of years, is that not the same thing as a girlfriend or boyfriend? Yes I can see how a temporary marriage would lower divorce rates. I think if people thought out marriage and really plan out steps to get married divorce rates could go down. The first step would be picking the right person or soul mate. Who is the right person for me? Do they like what I like? How do they act after a couple of months? The second step would be living with that person. You could find your soul mate then when you start living together find out that their super dirty. That the soul mate does not like sharing bills or even worst cannot budget their money and you have to pick up the remaining bill! After a couple of months of living together you can really figure out if this is someone you can wake up to ever single day. The third step would be marriage. If you get to the third step great you should have a happy married.